Why Can't You Shut Up?: How We Ruin Relationships How Not To
by Anthony E. Wolf /
2006 / English / PDF
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You forgot to buy milk! You never said anything about milk. Yes, I definitely did. You never listen. I do too listen. You never said milk. No, I did say milk. You just dont listen. Weve all been in situations like this onewhen a loved one unintentionally provokes a confrontation. What do we do? We stand our ground, push our point, and underscore our reasons. We do it because we know were right. What is it, deep inside our being, that refuses to budge, to give in, or to shut up before were embroiled in a fight we dont want? Meet your baby self. According to Dr. Anthony Wolf, this childish personality comes out at home, at work, and in social settingswith spouses, significant others, colleagues, and even friends. The baby self doesnt know when to back down, it doesnt compromise, and it can lead you to make rash and, usually, wrong decisions. In this humorous, helpful, and eye-opening guide, youll learn how to deal with your baby self when it wreaks havoc on your life. Dr. Wolf provides alternate ways of responding to others when your baby self is ready to scream: Its not fair! Its not my fault! You are wrong! He offers ways to avoid the traps that sabotage all relationships, helps us recognize the false reasons we trick ourselves into thinking we are right, and teaches us how to let our mature side do the talking. With scores of examples of how innocent day-to-day conversations can erupt into conflagrations, Dr. Wolf shows you how to disengage fast and easily. The result? Peace, positive dialogue, and happier relationships all aroundeven if deep down you knowyou are right!
