The Science Of Trust: Emotional Attunement For Couples
by John M. Gottman /
2011 / English / EPUB
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An eminent therapist explains what makes couples
compatible and how to sustain a happy marriage.
An eminent therapist explains what makes couples
compatible and how to sustain a happy marriage.For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has
been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to
precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict
the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this
groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding
and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional
attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process
and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a
stronger relationship.
For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has
been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to
precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict
the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this
groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding
and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional
attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process
and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a
stronger relationship.
Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show
how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help
couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help
prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention
devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect,
respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to
tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about
our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships,
and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional
attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry
the relationship through difficult times.
Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show
how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help
couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help
prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention
devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect,
respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to
tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about
our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships,
and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional
attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry
the relationship through difficult times.
Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through
awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and
empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples,
and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the
relationship is enduring and resilient.
Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through
awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and
empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples,
and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the
relationship is enduring and resilient.
This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999
This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999The Marriage
Clinic
The Marriage
Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed
intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap
to a stronger future together.
, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed
intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap
to a stronger future together.